Wordless Wednesday!!

Hiatus Over :)

Well Hello there everyone in bloggy-land. It's been a long time since I have wrote anything. I had quite a few life changes that happened in the couple months I've been gone. The biggest change was moving. Granted I shouldn't be complaining too much because we only moved about 30 mins from our previous location, but a move is a move. Including packing up all our stuff and then trying to un-pack while my toddler keeps putting things back, saying "we're not staying, mommy." Yes, baby. We are. Get used to it while you're young or you'll turn in to me, with an irrational fear of change.

And man, has she been clingy. Not the greatest when you are trying to make children from a new family get used to you, and feel comfortable. That's why we moved actually, I'm working for a new family now. Have been for a few weeks. Now, I can't give you very many details in respect of the privacy of my clients/families. But, I'll say this: I now spend most of my days now with toddlers, three of them. I've never seen so much attitude in my life. I gotta admit though, it is pretty hilarious.

Well, that's all I have time for right now, gotta get back to filling sippy cups. Lol.

Season's Greetings and Growing Imagination

I apologize for my recent absence in the last few weeks. I have been really trying to focus on getting back in to school, and getting financial aid for that. That however doesn't mean that I have forgotten about you, my dear readers. I have missed you, and missed telling you about my toddler's antics. Her imagination seems to be growing by the second. It's hard to keep up with. Sometimes I think she is being serious when she is pretending, and sometimes I think she is pretending when she is really being serious. This is has gotten me in trouble with her several times already. And then there are the times when she is purposefully trying to trick me up, and make me look silly. At which point she starts laughing and at me and calls me silly mommy. She's a regular comedian. I swear. Haha. 

I can't wait until she pulls this on her father, who by the way says he will be here for Christmas. I guess we will just have to wait and see. I still don't trust him. But my little girl is excited about seeing him, so like I said, we'll just have to see how things go. 

Speaking of Christmas: I just finished making our Christmas greeting card. It is so much cheaper to design them myself, and then just have them printed for the regular price of any other 4x6 photo. A friend is picking them up for me later on today, I can't wait for them to get here. For those of you who read this and are personal friends of mine, email me with your address so I can send one to your family!! 

I hope everyone's fall/winter/holiday season is going well! Also I'm curious what my next topic should be more geared towards? My usual of parenting, or should it be about the holidays? What would you like to have a discussion about? Leave me a comment, twitter me, facebook me and let me know!!

Going back to school? #nervous

Yes, it's been awhile since I have updated my blog regularly. I have to admit that I have been super busy and distracted with my plans to head back to school. Yup that's right single working mommy turned single working college student mommy. Haha... I think I may be in for a rough journey but this is sometihing that I've ALWAYS wanted to do. I am so super duper excited. And the best part?? I will be majoring in Marketing so I'm sure the more experience I get, the better my blog will be!!! I hope at least. This is not one of those things that I start and then decide after awhile that I just don't feel like doing it anymore. Because finishing a degree will ensure a better job, and ensure a better life for my daughter. But I also promise that I will continue to update my blog with fun topics about my crazy toddler, parenting, and surviving. Speaking of, my daughter as with all children, is growing up way too fast. I wish she wouldn't learn and grow so fast. I miss the little baby girl she used to be when she was still crawling and babbling. But now she is a toddler. Talking full sentences, and she won't stop asking questions, Haha. And she now runs faster than I do, she chases circles around her aging mother. I think my favorite part right now is that she doesn't always pronounce things right, so they sound funny. And she makes up her own words sometimes. Spaghetti is sketti. Popcicle is posikle. She's hilarious.
So my curious question to you is what is your favorite time? Crawling? Walking? Talking? etc. 

Potty training, Halloween, and Simple Pleasures Giveaway Winner!

So I realise that I haven't been on much in the last few days. I have a lot on my plate right now. Not to mention the technical difficulties with my internet.  Anyway, starting this morning I have been really pushing my toddler for potty training. We've tried in the past, but it was just kinda if she wanted to. Now I'm really focused on it. I know she's ready. She tells me everytime she goes potty in her diaper, and she seems really interested in her potty chair. So last night I got a bag of treats for her. The bag is full of candy, and other treats. My friend who potty trained her 4 children suggested that I find something to encourage my daughter. Anyway, so I sat her down this morning and we had a little chat about her potty chair, her potty pants (pull-ups), and the bag of treats she gets to pick from if she does go potty. She seemed to understand. Which made me super excited. About 20 minutes later, she said "Mommy, I gotta potty". So I showed her how to take her "potty pants off" and sit on the "potty chair". And SHAZAAM! I was so happy, we both were jumping up and down in excitement. She picked a green sucker from the "treat bag", and there you go! So far she has only had an accident once, but that's because we were outside and she was a little too distracted by toys. AWESOME!! So far, so good. Day 1 down.

I suppose you all want to know who won the Simple Pleasures Giveaway that ended yesterday. Well... (drumroll please)...

Its Bridget Gilligan!

Congratulations, Bridget! I hope you enjoy your prize pack!!!
Next on the agenda, I have been trying to come up with costume ideas for my daughter for Halloween. The only one I could come up with is pebbles from the flinstones. She has the red hair, and she's the right age for it. But in my area, bambam and pebbles have been done a lot. So any of you have any suggestions? Send me a twitter @MoreSmoresMama or just leave a comment! That would be really awesome! Thanks!

Well, I hope everyone is having a lovely day, and I hope you all are having fun!
Until next time,

Our Day in The Park: Havin some fun!

Our Day in The Park!

My absolute passion (other than blogging and twitter ofcourse) is photography. I've been neglecting my camera lately, which is a shame. This morning my daughter went for a doctor checkup and got her flu shots. So I decided to treat both of us. She got to go play at the park for more than an hour, and I got to take some great shots of my favorite subject! I had SOOOO much fun that I thought I would share some of them you! So I hope you enjoy! My daughter is so much fun to photograph! 

HOPE YOU ALL HAD AS GOOD OF A DAY AS WE DID!!!

Rock n Learn DVD/CD Giveaway!!

A fellow blogger is giving away a Rock n Learn DVD or CD of choice. If you have seen any of their dvds or listen to any of their cds, You know how great they are for kids! I really want to win the Colors, Shapes, and Counting DVD for my little one. This is an awesome Giveaway, and I'm excited to participate. If you want to enter this giveaway go to Ann Crabs blog HERE. 

Here is a sample of her post:

"My youngest is beginning to read, so I was excited to review Rock n Learn's Sight Words DVD.  I have watched (and loved) many of their videos, but this is definitely one of my favorites!  The video reviews over 60 sight words, including all pre-primer Dolch words and the Top 20 from Fry's first 100 and more.  The songs combined with the words are taught in context for meaning.  The characters are fun and my girls were laughing and singing along right away!  If you have a little one starting to read, don't miss out on this video!

Rock n Learn offer a variety of education video and CD topics, including reading, phonics, science, foreign languages, presidents, states and capitals and the solar system.  Visit www.RockNLearn.com for more information and to hear samples."


I urge you to go check it out, and if you have a little one who is starting to read, or learn shapes, colors, or numbers I urge you to enter her giveaway!

How parents cope: Toddler Tantrums

Today I’m going to talk about a topic that is near and dear to me. No it’s not charity. No it’s not some sort of illness (unless you consider tantrums an illness). The infamous and dreaded temper tantrum!

A lot of people over the ages have written about temper tantrums. But my take is a little different.  See, temper tantrums are a part of life. I guarantee just about every toddler has had them.  So it’s normal behavior for toddlers, am I right? Most of the posts/articles/books that I have seen focus on how to get your child to stop, or atleast minimize them. Which I don’t disagree with. But what about us? How do we get through it? How do we as parents, cope with these dreaded temper tantrums?


 It is human nature to be uncomfortable with something we don’t understand. So the first step is understanding a temper tantrum. At this age, a toddler (no matter how grown up they may seem at times), just doesn’t have the capacity to understand an adult’s logic and reasoning. They don’t get just how embarrassing, frustrating, annoying, and distressing temper tantrums are to us. To them it’s just a way of expressing their emotions. Don’t try to get them to understand why tantrums are bad, they just don’t get it. Instead, try showing them more positive ways of dealing with emotion. Getting frustrated during your child’s tantrum is not only pointless, but can actually make it worse. Much worse, I’m afraid. Not only are you stressed out, but your child picks up on your heightened level of stress, and frustration.


I am by no means an expert in this department, but I do know that the louder, more frustrated you are… the more frustrated they are. Like you are feeding off of each other’s emotions. I have definitely had a hard time with this, and it’s a hard lesson learned. So back to how to deal with them. Walk away if you have to. If you feel like you just can’t calm down, and the situation is escalating, just walk into the other room. Take a minute to calm down. Take a few deep breaths. Turn on some soothing music. Whatever it takes. Children at this age have a low attention span. I’ve done this several times with my daughter, and by the time I walked back in the room, she had stopped and was focused on something completely different.


If that doesn’t work, distraction almost always does (atleast for me). And I don’t just mean for your little one. This technique can be used for both you and your toddler. Have a favorite movie that you love watching with your little one? Put it on, sit down, and relax. Guaranteed to not only distract the little attention span your child has, but it will also distract from the negative frustration and turn it into a good moment. Distraction can be used anywhere. In the car, in the grocery store, at home, anywhere. Creating a less stressed home, and a less stressed parent can create a less stressed, happy, calmer child. Remember that you are their example. If you stay calm, they will start to follow you. Hope this helps! And if you have any questions, either leave a comment, or if you would rather, you can email me at S(dot)moreland27(at)gmail(dot)com.

Curbing the dreaded "MINE!" phase for toddlers

Hello there Bloggyland!

Today is gunna be awesome! No work. No previous engagements, No appointments, No worries! I literally don't have anything planned for the day except to take my daughter to park after nap time. It's days like this that make everything else possible! Speaking of... just thought I'd let you know, I have a lot planned for the next few weeks. A few reviews, more giveaways, plus more fun stuff. OOooo I almost forgot. I submitted an essay to The Parent Du Jour, which is an online book of parent from ALL around the world. And... (insert drum roll here)... I am proud to say that in a few weeks time, my essay will be published on their website!! So excited, and honored to be a part of their project. As soon as my essay is published, I will post a link for you guys to go check out. :)

The last couple of weeks I have been teaching my daughter about money, and paying for things. Granted, she only has a piggy bank. But I'm one of those people that absolutely hates change. Especially when you get a collection going in your pocket and people can hear coming from a long way off and small children scream "I hear jingle bells! I hear Santa coming!". Haha. Anyway, so if I ever get change, no matter the amount, it automatically goes into her piggy bank (which means that she has more in there, than I have in my wallet, Lol). Now she knows that she can't just take things, and that she has to pay for them with her piggy. A totally awesome side-effect, that I wasn't really going for but is awesome nontheless, is that she has stopped claiming everything to be "Mine!" That drove me nuts. I think every toddler goes through that phase. Glad I finally figured out a magic cure for it. And also started teaching my daughter about the value of money early! One small step for toddlers, One giant leap for Super Moms everywhere! Love it. :)

Well, I hope you are all having a fantastic (and not so busy) day!
Until next time!

I hate being so indecisive...

I realize that it's been awhile since I have just written a plain blog, no contest/giveaway, challenge, blog hop stuff, just me, my brain and the keyboard. I feel like I am at a cross roads right now in my life. I know I don't talk much about Katy's father, and that's cause he hasn't really been around much. In my opinion, he's kind of a deadbeat, but it's hard not to still care for someone who is the father of your child. Well we haven't heard a peep from him in about four months. Which is pretty typical. But I had tried calling him a couple of times to ask him to talk to Katy because she's finally at an age where she recognizes who her father is, and she asks to talk to him. But he never answered. Up until yesterday. He called and talked to Katy for about half an hour. Asked her how she was doing. All sorts of stuff. She absolutely loved it. But I'm having a hard time with him calling only when it's convenient for him. He only calls every once in awhile. So I guess I kinda have to make a decision here. Do I keep letting things go the way they always do, him calling every once in awhile? (He has only seen her twice in her life). Or do I tell him to stop calling because it confuses her? All I want to do is raise a happy, healthy, normal, and balanced girl. But I am not sure what to do on this one. I've asked several people, and I've prayed, but I don't feel like I've really come up with an answer. Which is really frustrating me. But it is ultimately my decision, which doesn't work well for me because I am very indecisive. I hate that about myself. Anyway, that's all for now. So until next time, dear readers.

-Sicily

Wordless Wednesday!!!!

15 Tips for Single Parents

I have been a single parent for over two years, and it has definitely been a rocky road. But I have kept going, even when it seemed impossible. I know without Katy in my life, things would be very different. I love her with every breath in my body even though most times she is the cause of my frustrations. I know I'm not the only one out there. So if you are a newly single parent, or even a veteran who is going through a rough time, (some of these tips work for any parent, not just single parents): Take a deep breath. Stay calm. Here are a few tips I have learned that may help:

1. It's ok to be emotional:

I know that as single parents we want to be the backbone for our families. We need to achieve a balance though. It is okay for us to be emotional, and still be strong. I know I've broke down and cried many times after my daughter has gone to bed. A good cry can actually be a healthy release of emotions that we have been hiding from our children all day. But if you don't let it out once in awhile, the emotions you are holding in can backfire on you.

2. Be Creative:

How many times have you gotten un-wanted parenting advice from others, and you kept thinking "but you don't know my child, you don't live with him/her, you just DONT KNOW"? I used to do this all the time, completely dismissing any advice from others. But sometimes if we swallow our pride, and take a moment to listen, it just might help. If the advice doesn't quite work for your child, tweak it. Take someone's advice, and change it to fit you and your child. Be creative, and you just might come up with a solution!

3. Teach them your values:

Make a point of telling your children, what is okay, and what's not. And stand firm with what you believe in, even if it isn't what others think you should be doing. You are the parent of your child. No one else is.

4. Quit worrying about not having the other parent around:

This is something I still struggle with every day. But here's the deal: Single moms and dads having been raising children for a VERY long time. If they can do it, so can you. Just because the other parent isn't there, doesn't mean your child can't live a happy and healthy life.

5. Don't be scared to ask for help:

We can't always be Supermoms/Superdads. Sometimes we need help, but we are too afraid to ask. Keep in mind that just because you are asking for help, that doesn't mean you have failed as a parent. The old saying "It takes a village to raise a child" couldn't be more accurate. Make a support system for yourself of reliable family members and friends that you can trust to be there when you need them most.

6. Make them self-sufficient:

This is my favorite tip to give any other parent out there, because I have such a strong testimony of it. There is nothing wrong with getting a head start on teaching them a few things that will help them feel more grown up, while giving you more time to focus on other things. My daughter loves helping mommy with the dishes. She is so proud of herself when she gets her own snack out of the designated drawer in the kitchen. Instead of stopping in the middle of doing the mounds of laundry I have to go restart her movie, she knows how to press play when it gets to the menu. She opens the fridge, gets her own juicebox, and the only thing I have to do is help her put the straw in. Her favorite pair of shoes are a pair of clogs that she can just slip on, instead of me having to tie her tennis shoes. I know these seem like simple things, but they add up. A minute here, a minute there. Which means more time for me to get things done that I need to.

7. Make a plan/schedule/organize

Being a single parent can get pretty crazy and hectic sometimes. To avoid that feeling of "chicken with my head cut off", make a plan/schedule for each day. Try to organize your home to make things easier for when you only have a few moments to spend on it.

8. Keep your schedule:

Kids whine less about bed time, if they already know it's coming. So once you come up with a schedule, do your best to stick to it.

9. Stay healthy:

Healthy parents, means healthy kids. Make sure to take time to yourself, to keep yourself healthy. You can avoid frantically searching for a last minute babysitter because you are sick, if you just take a few moments to yourself each day to focus on yourself, and your own health.

10. Have a backup plan:

Ever had a babysitter back out at the last minute, and had to cancel that important meeting? When it comes to babysitters/childcare, school schedules, plans for the day, etc it's really important that you come up with a back up plan in case something falls through. You can avoid an un-necessary stress out session if you already have a plan when things go wrong.

11. Budget:

Living on a single income can be very difficult, especially in this economy. Take some time to come up with a budget for food, clothing, and other needs that allows you live comfortably. Putting a little of your paycheck in a savings account each month can also help for emergencies.

12. Schedule Alone time:

Make some time for yourself. Schedule a manicure. Watch a movie by yourself. Just a small amount of "Alone" time each day can do wonders for your own sanity. Don't Forget to pamper yourself! 

13. Focus on the positive:

There are going to be times when bad things happen, that you just can't change no matter how hard you try. Don't dwell on them, it's counter-productive and it will only stress you out. Focus on more positive things, or things that you can still change. 

14. Pray:

Prayer is a wonderful thing. Take time to thank God for the good things you have in life, and ask him to bless you with  courage, strength, compassion, and love. God always answers our prayers.

15. Sometimes you just have to let go:

If all else fails, just let it go. If you can't change the situation, just let it go. If something your child is doing frustrates you, but there's nothing you can do, just let it go. And remember that your child loves you, you love your child, and no matter what you will get through it together. Be strong.

I am not perfect, nor a perfect parent. Just doing my best. Sometimes that's all you can do.

Sending my love out to all you single parents.

-Sicily

Gray Hair and Spongebob

The last couple of years have been really hard on my hair. Ive dyed it numerous times in order to get rid of all the little gray hairs that seem to pop up with every tantrum my toddler has. Well, today wasn't any better.

The morning started out as any other morning in our house. Katy wakes me up, she eats her cereal, and then she asks me to start her favorite video on the tv in her room. All of this goes just as every other day. But then I walk out of her room for about a minute and a half, and I hear a blood curdling scream. And I have to admit as I was rushing in to her room, I was thinking "Oh goodness, what now?!" I meet her at the bedroom door and she is already bleeding heavily. At first I wasn't sure where the blood was coming from because it seemed to be everywhere. In her hair, hands, face, and clothes. I finally found the source. Her left pointer finger looked like something out of a horror movie. Mangled, bloody, and black and blue.

My mom was a nurse for most of her adult life, and she taught me a few tricks. So, I cleaned up the blood as best as I could, and we headed to my moms to get her opinion. We sterelized it with hydrogen peroxide, and bandaged it. My mom couldn't tell what it looked like until it stopped bleeding. So Katy sat and watched tv with us, and then fell asleep for a little bit. When she woke up, and my mom took a second look at it, she told me that I may want to take her to the hospital. So we went. I'm amazed at how brave, and calm Katy was all day. Even when the doctor put 5 stitches in the end of her finger.

So while my own nerves where shot, imagining the worst scenario ( a child with 9 fingers instead of 10), Katy was calm. Barely any tears. She watched Spongebob as the doc stitched her up, and then sat up and said "Tank you, you did good job Doctor man." At that point the doctor and nurse started laughing. I think I added a good ten new gray hairs today, and I also learned just how tough my little girl is. Now that it's the end of the day, and I'm thinking it over, things could have been much worse, and my daughter took it in stride and became my little warrior. Scars and all. *sigh* She's growing up too fast.

Totally worth it

My daughter, as with most single moms is the most important thing in my world. I must admit she is far more intelligent, and motivated individual than I am (not sure where she got that, maybe beginners luck on my part). Anyway, she seems to take care of me more than I do for her it seems. Perfect example of this happened earlier this evening. I had recieved some pretty distressing information earlier today, and I was having a hard time holding things together. I tried so hard not to show my daughter, because I didn't want her to stress, or be upset. But as every parent knows, sometimes you just crack. But my two year old, baby girl completely suprised me. It was like twilight zone (given the tantrum about watching elmo she had five minutes earlier). I was sitting on the couch and I started crying. My daughter walked up to me, and asked "you okay, mom?" She then patted my head like a dog and added, "It'll be okay, mommy." Kissing my cheek, and then gave me the biggest bear hug her two year old little arms could handle. I smiled so hard for the next five minutes, that my cheeks started to hurt. That is what makes this crazy life of being a single mom, totally worth every second.

Perception

I know that it has been awhile since I have blogged, as I have been busy. Sort of anyway. So far my days have consisted of job searching, and taking care of my daughter. I have come to accept the fact that my daughter is very easily amused by some things and very easily bored with others. She is in fact a miniature version of myself down to the t. Easily distracted, easily frustrated, easily forgiving, and just as lazy at times. Every day we watch the same movie over and over again until I feel like smashing my head against a wall. There are only so many times you can watch Elmo in Grouchland before you want to throw up. I know I’m rambling, but I promise I am getting to my point. Elmo in Grouchland is very much a toddler movie, with some exceptions.  There is underlying adult humor, which you won’t pick up if you are under the age of 15. This reminds me of a discussion I had a few days ago about how sick and perverted old man Disney was. For example, the certain artifact you can find on the original cover of The Little Mermaid. Perception can be defined by age, but not just age. It can be defined by gender, race, sexual preference, area you grew up in, and also spiritual/moral beliefs. I had a discussion with another friend Kwapi (amazing writer and more- please check out his stuff- Twitter @kwapiv or http://www.facebook/kwapivengesayi), about perception of those with different backgrounds. So I have a question for readers: Is there an object (movie, book, experience, person, etc) that you look at differently now than you have in the past? What changed your perception? Was it age, your surroundings, friends, religious beliefs, etc? Leave me some comments/questions!

@Smores

Poppin the Cherry

First time blogging, ever. We will just have to see what happens with this. No idea what to start with except to tell a story. Once upon a time there was a single working mother of a toddler. Now this mother has dealt with it all: poopy diapers, spit up, tantrums, having her hair fall out, and all of the rest of the things associated with mother-hood. But this mom has a sense of humor, and takes everything with a grain of salt (and so should you as you read this blog). The fact that her daughter had developed a disease of repeating every word like it was going out of style usually made her laugh. Most mothers of a toddler can agree that it can get pretty annoying when your child repeats "Elmo!" about 50 times. In fact it probably will drive you nuts. One day this mother is trying to teach her daughter how to say the word "Flag". Now this particular child had not learned how to pronounce her 'L's. You can see where this is going. So a few days later in the grocery store when her daughter kept repeatedly saying "FAG, mommy! FAG! FAG! FAG! FAG!", this mother could do nothing but try to hurry out with her groceries. Just goes to show you that while parents mean well, they may in fact be causing themselves more grief than is needed.



*And just so everyone knows, I have not a single problem with Homosexuals, and that it was just an anecdote about children.*


@Smores